Over the past 29 weeks, I've received some re-occurring comments (usually from strangers) that I know someday I will look back and laugh at. This is a topic I recently read in an amazing twin book (Twin Sense) and also the topic of conversation in our birthing for multiples class, so I feel inclined to share and document the most common for me.
1) Wow, you must be ready to POP! "(Starting getting this around 20 weeks) Nope." This is then usually followed with a confused look to which I reply, "It's twins." You can now insert most of the questions/comments below.
2) Were you trying for twins? How do you TRY for twins? This one still gets me.
3) Are they identical? "Nope- two separate eggs means they are just like regular siblings." My favorite comment that I read in Twin Sense was, "One has a penis, so no." I've yet to use this one, but I've got it in my back pocket for the next lucky stranger that asks.
4) You are so lucky, I've always wanted twins! "Does your husband/boyfriend know this?" :/
5) How long have you been off work? "I still work... everyday. I'm not broken."
6) Double trouble... UGH- This gets SO annoying. It's usually said after or in combination of one or more of the other comments listed to which I let out an obviously fake laugh and try to dis-engage from conversation immediately.
7) A boy and a girl! You must be done then! Not sure how it's any of your business, but "maybe... maybe not." What a pressured thing to ask a pregnant woman! Especially a first time mom. I have no idea what to expect. It's like those people who ask the moment after you get engaged/married when you are planning on having kids. How about let's live in the moment and enjoy. :)
8) You are already bigger than I was when I was full term with just one: I believe this comment was said to me around 20 weeks as well. Pretty sure I cried that afternoon. Looking back I laugh because I wasn't nearly as big as I am now.
9) I'm a twin (or) my cousins are twins (or) my sister's husbands grandma is a twin. Great- I just met you so this means nothing to me. I usually respond with a "WOW... That's cool."
10) So if each baby now weighs about 2.5 lbs-3 lbs each then you've only gained about 6lbs? This literally just was asked by a co-worker as I was typing this. I just started laughing and said yes.
Eight more weeks until full term with twins (37 weeks)... hopefully I won't get too many more of these comments. Although, I fully anticipate a few to stick around and to be asked when we bring the twins places.

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